faggot:
— n
1. a bundle of sticks or twigs, esp when bound together and used as fuel.
I'm* sorry* for* Read* They* worse* She* probably* for* attention*
~~If you're going to post dumb comments and be a troll, you can at least use correct grammar and insults.
Good God.
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Just out of curiosity, what if it was someone you knew and were close with who posted this, then took your comment seriously, killed themselves and in a suicide note wrote "because I'm a stupid fake bitch"? I'm not trying to attack you or a bitch of any type. All I'm saying is think about what you type before you type it.
Wow, you are seriously sad. You probably think you're real cool telling people to kill themselves. But you honestly have no idea how lame that really is. Assuming your name describes your music taste, might I add that loud punk music is ten times better than "hip hop"
"this isn't a compassion pit" seems to be most people's justification for the rude, obnoxious way they comment on these posts. it may not be a compassion pit but it isn't a place for you to abuse your peers either. So many people posting on here don't know who to talk to and/or are struggling day to day and your bitter comments do nothing to help that, they make it worse.
I have so little hope in this generation when I see how unbelievably inconsiderate some of you can be. Grow some humanity and get over yourselves, this isn't a place for you to take your anger and your ego complex out on the people sharing their secrets with us.
Do you have any idea how hard it is to pick up the courage to post some of the secrets on here? And it makes it harder that every time something is posted there's plenty of supercilious people waiting to jump to conclusions or attack everything that is said.
stop hiding behind your excuses and accept that your acrimony isn't okay, on this site or any site or anywhere else in life.
I'm sorry, but you guys are just stupid.
Once, I posted a legitimate, spelling error free, secret and people tore me apart over the internet. They said things that were not only untrue, but much more than a ” harsh but refreshing slap of reality” as much of you call it.
So yeah, I agree with OP. Not only are the commentors generally too harsh and just plain rude, but it's annoying to look in a comment section searching for advice or at least some sort of human compassion...and see something more like " I bet you're just a fat whiney bitch wasting away behind a computer. You'll probably never amount to anything!"
That was an actual comment from my post, by the way.
The thing is, the good and HELPFUL comments make my day. I love coming on here, looking at a secret that I resonate well with, and seeing honest but helpful comments. I'd say that at least 70% of the commentors here aren't helpful in the least, and do more harm than good. After my "virtual beating" things actually got worse. I would love to say it was just the universe, but it was my now non-existant confidence because of the comments. I don't hate anyone, but It's sad that you people have about as much compassion as a rock, and more ignorance than I can describe.
Again, this is not a place for compassion. If you want that, then go here: http://www.compassionpit.com/
Also, not trying to be rude, but if your self-confidence depends so much on what anonymous people over the Internet say, then that's pretty bad. Some things are just meant to be ignored, and you shouldn't take them seriously. This is the Internet. You even admitted it yourself.
I believe most of the commenters on here are very down-to-Earth, sometimes slightly harsh people, but they aren't rude most of the time. We aren't here to tell you you're beautiful; we're not therapists, comforters, psychiatrists, or psychologists, and we can not give OPs advice or help as those people may. I myself know what you're talking about, but why would you take something like that literally? It may hurt, but it's just text. It doesn't mean anything.
Oh, and how are we ignorant? What are we ignorant of? I know I'm coming off as excessively inconsiderate, but we don't have to be compassionate here, or even nice and helpful.
Don't read the comments if you don't want to hear what others have to say.
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I had posted the secret at a really low time in my life, and at that point anything that harsh that someone said to me hit me harder that it normally would. I'm over that now, but at the time it was unbelievable that someone, who had no clue who I was or my life story, hated me and thought I was worthless. It's just sad.
And I'm not asking for " GUrrrllllLL youssz soh bootifeulls!" I asking for “Hey, here is some real, honest advice. I'm not sugar coating it, but I’m not purposefully insulting you!" A lot of secrets are- yes - actual secrets. Actual people with actual problems. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean it's not real.
And really, people take things differently. If someone tells me I’m a "Pathetic space waster" then yeah, it's going to sting no matter how honest they were being. It's the same when people joke around in real life, they may not mean to hurt you...but you can't help to mentally go "Owch" is they say something too abrasive.
A lot of people here are ignorant at to how what they say can damage others. They think that they're just trying to give realistic advice, help out. Give their opinion. Well, sometimes your opinion isn't welcome, as one might say.
I know nobody has to be kind, or nice, or compassionate…but it’s sad that one would even have to ask that. As imperfect people, who all have problems, I would assume that we all have the capacity to be kind. Sometimes I feel like the commenters are just butt-hurt over something and take it out on people via the internet. Sure, you could be mean. Say whatever you want. It just reflects the kind of person people are.
Also, if someone gets their secret posted....they are curious enough to look at the comments and see how people felt about it. Seek reassurance or whatever they want.
I'm sorry if this comes across as rude, I really am. It just seems that a lot of people here agree with me.
OH MY GOD!!!! THIS MADE ME LITERALLY FACEPALM. You people are SO GODDAMN STUPID AND DON'T EVEN REALIZE IT. This is NOT Compassion Pit, this is NOT your therapist and this is NOT ANY GIVES ME HOPE SITE. THIS SITE IS FOR GODDAMN SECRETS AND THE COMMENTATORS ARE ALLOWED TO THEIR GODDAMN OPINIONS AND FEELINGS.
MY FEELINGS ARE VALID LET ME FEEL THEM RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH.
:turns into Godzilla and kills the Universe:
No seriously, STOP BEING RETARDED. STOP IT. RIGHT NOW. NOW.
:D Sure. I was named Amethyst after Amethyst Saint-James, the Heroine of the book Love's Fiery Jewel. It's a book my mom was reading while she was pregnant with me.
My first and middle names are Amethyst Rose (respectively), which is why my Spartz username is "Amethyst Petals". I thought it sounded cool. :3
Hahahhaha, thanks. Actually, my family's religious and my mother prayed to Virgin Mary to give birth to a daughter (because they had two sons already) and if it was a girl that she's going to name it after her. And here in my country Virgin Mary is called Maria, so long story short that's how I got my name :)
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I love/hate when Substitute teachers can't say my name and they try to struggle through "Amethyst". I tell them to call me "Amy." If they see Amy written next to my name on the sheet and call me that instead, I test them by asking them to say my full name. x3 Torturing subs is so fun.
:D I'm glad you actually asked. Lol.
You guys don't get the point of what the person is trying to tell you. People on this site are NOT posting secrets to get attention, because no one even knows who they are so they can't even seek attention out of that. And how would you like it if you told someone your deepest darkest secret and they started criticizing you about it and told you to get over it! Even that, people come on this website to help get through whatever problems they have and the LEAST they need is someone telling them to grow up. Even if you don't think their secret is a "real problem" just remember obviously it's a problem for someone else. So if you really think that someone's secret is really ridiculous, don't comment telling them that they're secret's stupid, just don't comment. And I really don't care about what you think of my strongly-worded comment, I'm just sticking up for the people that are being hurt by their secret's comments.
But you can still have the mental side of anorexia. Just because you eat it doesn't meant you're not suffering from body image issues that are largly related to anorexia. I feel the need to be skinnier, so I eat less than I should, which means starving for three hours until I allow myself to eat.
Do you have any psychology qualifications? I'd like to know what it is that you think justifies you deciding what problems are 'real' or not. As far as I'm concerned, and I'm sure most would agree, any problem that effects someone's life significantly is a 'real' problem.
I sincerly hope you find a way to get over your bitterness. If you don't like listening to people's problems then I have a very simple recommendation for you: stop reading this website.
You know what. . . Normally, I can make a bunch of excuses and try to be reasonable, but not this time. Not only have there been a bazillion PSA's about this, it's also not a secret, which is what this site is designated for. Clearly, you know how the commenters on this site operate; they're honest, to the point, and sometimes a little harsh. If you can't handle that. . . Don't. Post. Anything. You know what you can and cannot handle, and if you go searching out what hurts you, don't be surprised when you get hurt. It's very simple logic and if you can't do that, don't go on the internet. Just don't.
Also, I don't think bullying counts as,
"Not everyone is beautiful, that's just how it is."
or
"[I don't know you and have never seen you, but again all logic] You're beautiful!"
"You don't know if they're beautiful, you've never seen them."
"NOOOOO!!!!!!!11 Everyone is bewtifool!"
or
"Well, here's some advice based on your vague situation."
Now, every now and again, you'll get someone who will be all, "Where's the secret" or they'll make some sarcastic remark, but I still feel like this doesn't constitute as bullying. I have never seen a cruel comment here, and if one little sarcastic comment sends you off the deep end, you need to be seeing a therapist, not whining on the internet.
(Okay, I'm done. This got a little ranty. :P)
Honestly, most of you guys are complete dicks. There is very big difference between being truthful and being plain harsh. You can say 'don't read the comments then' but when someone's secret gets posted, and they see it has comments, of course they're going to read them! Everyone has a right to an opinion but you don't have the right to make someone else upset because you can't keep your mouth shut.
Seriously, think about what you're putting, don't try and make yourself look 'big' for the entertainment of others.
Bullying, is it? A non-beneficial comment or one that goes off on some random tangent is NOT bullying. If you perceive it as such, however, then your Level 99 Sensitivity attribute demands that you go seek professional help.
For example, if you, in any form at all, believe that what I posted here is somehow a form of bullying, you are sorely mistaken. That, and you have just taken up a good spot for a real secret by posting this PSA.
I question the intelligence of the ones who actually voted YES on this "secret."
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Okay, yes I can see why ou may think this about SOME of the comments. But I have learnt that most people are trying to help, even if it seems like "bullying". And by the way, sure, at first these "bad comment" secrets were okay at first, but there are too many now. Who votes for these any way?
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I get that everyone has issues and i agree people shouldn't be commenting horrible things on other peoples. sometimes getting help can be hard. I have a lot of issues and i am to worried that people are going to judge me for it. this site is ment to be about helping one another not putting each other down. NO HATE. <3
YOU DON'T GET IT! What may seem harsh is usually people trying to help. Yes, some comments are uncalled for, but everyone has a right to speak. I have never seen one comment that was made to purposely upset the OP, most of them are just expressing opinions. And as other commenters have said, just because someone says it's not a secret, or that people don't know that the OP is beautiful, it doesn't mean they're "judging"
Welcome to real life, OP.
By the way, I've earned the right to joke about cutting, depression and suicide. I've cut for almost three years, am now 101 days clean, and have had four failed suicide attempts.
(Do more people use the new Spartz comments or the old Disqus ones?)
All right, people are saying "she shouldn't have hit you but you did what she told you not to." First of all, that still doesn't make it okay. Second, OP only said that her mother was sick, she could have meant the common cold or something. It sounded like it was pretty general.
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