That's exactly what it's like with my best friend, only he doesn't know I know. And apparently, his only excuse for not telling me is that he thinks he's been friendzoned. which is embarrassingly accurate
Pricewepay commented on Six Billion Secrets
My best friend likes me. He told me that two years ago, and some times he randomly tells me in case "my feelings have changed". But they haven't, and our friendship has always been fine. You just have to be very cautious of that friend line, and don't cross it.
Like don't be overly touchy. Don't sit in their lap or whatever, or go out with him paying like a date, and don't get him to do things that'd he wouldn't do for others, but would do for you.
And also encourage dating with other girls.
Just saying. It can work out.
Thats how it started with me and my boyfriend. We told each other we loved each other for months. He asked me out several times but i turned him down because i was scared of what you are scared of now. Honestly if you guys act like a couple dating is no different trust me. My boyfriend and i literally will forget that we are dating because out behavior is normal to us. Also promise each other you will never leave each other if you really love him and explain to each other how important you are to each other and promise if you break up that it CANT affect your friendship. If you break up try to keep that friendship together. If you stay together forever it was a great choice. Good luck <3
That'show me and my boyfriend got together.... we were bestfriends and we said we loved eachother and we hugged and kissed sometimes yet we weren't going out. He had to force me though. Because even though I really did like him I just thought he was going to leave like the others =/ so I said I didn't but he got to me >.< and I got one of my friends to tell him to ask me out because I was to cowardly to do it. Now we've been together for about 2 months :)
Pricewepay commented on Six Billion Secrets
i know a lot of people are putting up bad comments but mine, its going to be different. a secret is a secret. who cares if people think it is in question form. to me, this is wonderful, someone is finally standing up for people like me. yes there are other reasons, but the one you shared is one of the top ones. please dont listen to the others that commented on here. they are just doing this to put you down.
I hate myself. I hate myself pretty damned often. I cut for four years, but I stopped because I didn't want to see the pain in my friends eyes every time my sleeve slipped. I still hate myself. There is no "point" that you get to if you cut yourself. Every single time you cut, you hit a new low. While you're doing it it feels wonderful. For me, I felt like I deserved it. But after, when you look down at what you did, you hate yourself even more. How this made it through and my real secrets havent, I'll never know. But if you're someone who never has and you're just judging, fuck yourself. But if you're questioning how you came to this "point" with the rest of us, be strong. I'm not going to tell you that i'll become easier. It won't. But you'll overcome it.
I agree. Like, I know the "You are beautiful" crap never gets anyones attention, but your body was born precious. Your skin is new, your new to everything. Why would you want to destroy that beauty instead if destroying something else? Like, break something instead of cutting on your precious skin.. Do something else!
Do you know the amount of pride some people take in getting branded and tattooed? It's the same actions for a different purpose and with a different result. Not everyone is going to have the same exact emotional prompting to engage in a self-harm behavior. Maybe you should take a deep breath and either talk to whomever it is you're yelling at, or ignore them and move on because they're not worth he effort.
Kind of related story, my friend back in I think 10th grade in shop class that we had together decided he wanted to brand his arm one day. Some other people in the class heated up some metal and pressed it to his arm. His mom was really mad at him for it. It looked nasty for a while too. My friend also said it didn't really hurt when the metal touched his arm, it was just the days afterwards that it hurt.
This post is extremely irritating.
So I'm just gonna throw in a comment about how not everyone who self harms does it because they hate themselves. for some people, it's a coping mechanism for trauma. some people are just a bit masochistic and like doing it. Some people have other reasons for it.
Anyway, shut up, OP.
Pricewepay commented on Six Billion Secrets
I understand what you mean, OP, but sometimes dreams have nothing to do with anything. In my dreams, I've kissed my ex-half-brother (I'm in a relationship), and I would be in a mental institution after nearly killed my boyfriend so I can be with my ex-half brother. Yeah, I don't know either...
So laundry is going to attack me and there will be a zombie orgy? Dreams don't hold magical future telling powers, they are just made of your thoughts and worries and feelings and things that run through your mind. I'm sorry your boyfriend was cheating on you, hopefully you're out of that relationship and your next one has better communication and trust.
Pricewepay commented on Six Billion Secrets
Pricewepay commented on Six Billion Secrets
Like my old gym teacher. He literally LOOKED like the stereotypical pedophile and everything. And there were rumors that he raped a special needs girl. And looked into chicks shirt when they were stretching. O_O If he really was a creep, he must've been disappointed in me.
*random useless agreeing rant over*
Maybe she had one of those gut feelings, or he has done things that are creeepy for her to think that, you dont know her, you werent in that situation, so people that are being rude, SHUT UP, until Yyouve lived her life, and were in her shoes completely you dont know every bit of it, so stop hating and get off this site if your going to be such jerks
K I know I'm probably gonna get a lot of hate for this, but maybe OP had a gut feeling, not that she thought she was gonna get raped, but maybe she just thought there was something creepy and off about him. I'm not a rape victim, but my uncle molested me, and it doesn't really insult me. I know Im gonna get hate for this, all Im saying is don't make assumptions, and the comments on this site are really rude and sometimes it takes a lot of courage to post them.
Also, OP, don't put GMH in secrets, its just not right-.-
FACEPALME TIMES 100000000
Firstly, a lot of times teacher's have held me back after class, with none of my friends around, when I was grade four. But not to rape me. To ask if I was okay and if there were any problems. It helped a lot knowing they were there for me.
Moral: Just because someone wants to see you alone, it doesn't mean bad things are gonna happen.
Secondly, that is fricking offensive. To everyone.
Thirdly, this is not GMH. Go away
P.S Stop being an idiot.
As someone else did, I feel it appropriate to share with you one of my stories.
Teacher: Can you please come see me after class? But not with your friends.
*I go to the teacher after class*
Me: So...
Teacher: I just noticed that you looked kind of down lately. Are you alright? Is there anything you'd like to tell me?
Me: Well, I haven't exactly been too well lately, I just don't feel happy I suppose.
Teacher: How would you rate your mood on a scale of 1-10?
Me: 3.
Teacher: I'm sorry to hear that. Is there anything I could do to help you?
Me: Probably not, really, but thank you for asking.
Teacher: Just remember you can talk to me if you need.
Me: Okay, thanks.
And that, my dear friends is the story of a teacher who merely wanted to check if a student was alright.
You, my heroic friend, did indeed save yourself because I'm so sure they wanted to rape you.
Kudos for saving yourself.
Just kidding.
How did you even come to that conclusion? They probably just wanted to check up on you or talk about something in class.
Gee-whiz. Why do people assume so much?
D: no! I was sexually assaulted by a non-teacher and in a separate fact, my dad is a male teacher. The fact that she said this disturbed me because my dad is one of the most wonderful people on the planet and she thought she was doing right for making assumptions about a teacher that was "creepy" just for being a man.
I normally don't respond to people's stories with stories of my own, but I think it's appropriate here. Here's my similar situation when I was in sixth grade (I'm a guy, if that matters at all):
P.E. Teacher: Hey, come to my office during your lunch break. There's something I wanted to talk to you about.
Me: Okay.
Later that same day...
Me: What did you want to talk to me about?
Teacher: It's just you looked a bit under the weather lately. Everything alright?
Me: Yeah, just some stuff going on in my family, that's all. Not a big problem. Thanks for asking.
Teacher: If it's no big deal, then that's good to hear. See you tomorrow.
Me: Bye.
In my experience, teachers can and do worry about their students' health and problems. You have no idea what your teacher was going to do or say that day. That you immediately assumed that he was going to rape you and that you're a hero for saving yourself is quite presumptive and arrogant.
If you never considered the possibility that you may have actually been rude to him by never showing up, then that shows how narrow-minded you are. Granted, you very well could have been raped, but to blow your own horn and give yourself the title of "hero" is quite ridiculous.
By the way, what you essentially said is "I give me hope." Holy bojanski, that made me cringe.
Ooo what a hero. Making complete assumptions about the situation and skipping class by lying. The very peak of superhero we have here, people.
Ever think he was concerned about your poor PE grades, OP? I've seen my classmates go into the male PE teacher's office, and it was never anything more than the teacher showing concern for either grades or if you appeared to have troubles at home.
It's mindsets like yours, OP, that make men appear to be freaking creepsters instead of compassionate human beings. Stop demonizing every man you meet.
K, so, "congratulations" on saving yourself from a normal man, who probably just wanted to talk to you about how you were acting, and, this is probably EXTREMELY insulting to rape victims. Especially since its almost impossible to get raped in a school building with over 150 people in it at the time. And, WHY would you put GMH in it??? Just to annoy us with your retardedness??
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To be fair though, a lot of the comments are unnecessarily rude (I'm guilty of it every once in a while). But when the "secrets" are not secrets, or the OP is incredibly arrogant in making wild assumptions and patting themselves on the back with a golden hand, I say OP's asking for unsupportive comments.
Just because someone wanted to see you doesn't mean that he wanted to rape you.Not ever single person in this world is a fucked up person who only wants to rape little girls. Also I'm pretty sure he thought you would know how to get to his office. AND WRONG SITE!!!!!! :)
1. you don't know if he was going to rape you.
2. i could imagine that this is insulting to actual rape victims.
3. even if he wanted to rape you, TRYING is something different than what you described, namely going to.
4. wooow, you saved yourself from an until then undangerous situation? CONGRATS.
5. did you purposedly write GMH at the end just to annoy us?
6. if you even wrote GMH, why didn't you just post it to GMH then?!
*facepalm*
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